Please provide your thoughts about this post by Guro Khalid:
TO ALL GURO'S OF ESCRIMA / KALI / ARNIS: from Guro Khalid: Here is a Rule: Listen Carefully: Guro's should not meet students after a Class ends. Both should separate. Because there is nothing to say after the class. ALSO, no alcohol drinking for Guro's with students, in public, or in private, from now on. It could lead to some incident, and then your school's image will be effected for all. I follow the above 2 principles. For long life of us, the Filipino Martial Arts Community.
When I was training in the Philippines, we trained in the "family" environment and that is how I still teach. The family atmosphere is one that has its strong points but at the same time its weak points do pop now and then.. I can say for the most part, I never have had a negative experience with any of my students with the exception of one who was asked to leave the class after he constantly disrupted the class and 15 minutes later, his dad showed up wanting to confront me.. I stepped outside of the class room to talk to the father and told him the situtation why I asked the student to leave.. He said he was told something totally different by his son.. I told him that if the son wanted to come back, he was to apologize to the whole class and then would be allowed to be part of the class again.. He came back one time and after that, never showed up again.. so sometimes as an instructor, you have to act like a fatherly figure to your class and students just to let them know that you are in the position of control of your class and cannot let anything distract from your teachings and authority as an instructor
I think this has more to do with the nature of the instructor as an individual, than it does the nature of the [martial arts] classroom dynamic.
The instructor I studied under in Aikido had no problem separating social time from class time. After ranking exams, it was tradition for our Aikido dojo to go to the pub down the street and celebrate, and after long days of training during our weekend seminars we did the same. We usually had annual picnics at a park or at someone's house, and holiday parties in the dojo. The in-class atmosphere was exceptionally well structured, and not hindered in the least by our social activities during off-hours.
My FMA instructors have not done this, though.
There is a certain psychological benefit to knowing, not only your instructor, but the rest of your training partners, as well, on a personal-social level as well as in the formal atmosphere of the class.
Not all instructors can handle maintaining both a social and a classroom interaction with their students. Some are simply better than others at separating the two into their proper forums and settings.
I believe it is up to the instructor to know his/her own abilities at this, to set the appropriate boundaries according to their ability to manage social/classroom interpersonal relationships.
To all due respect with Guro Khalid since there is no context included with this post. But I respectfully disagree. I use the Philosophy of the Filipinos, hospitable, caring and that anyone that they teach earns to become family. Sounds like something else happened.
I believe that this policy is a very good one for Guro Khalid. I have absolutely no objections to his stated policy. As for myself, I will ignore his policy statement and continue to work with my students as I have in the past, based on their ages and maturity levels.